Guest Blogger, Dawn Shestko is the owner of DRS Performance Solutions. Find Dawn on Linkedin Facebook and Instagram
I cannot tell you how many times over this past year I’ve heard people, (myself included) preface how they’re doing or feeling with, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me lately, but…”
It seems we're all on the collective struggle bus. Many are having a hard time sticking to any healthy routines, and many are fearful of feeling and staying stuck. Lots of us are having a hard time focusing on anything for longer than a few minutes, and many talk of low energy, no drive, and zero motivation. Many wonder why they just can’t seem to get it together and keep it together!
That’s the thing… It's the keeping it together that’s challenging. We seem to get back on it with the best of intention, only to fall off again a short time later. I get it. The ups and downs since March 2020 have been plentiful!
Now that things are opening up again and life appears to be returning to somewhat “normal” we naturally assume these feelings will just disappear, and that we’ll magically feel inspired, motivated, and energetic. More than likely, we’ll get a burst of all the good feels, because summer is here and vacations are calling!
As a matter of fact, I’m on vacation right now, and am feeling great! I also know that I am in no way healed from this pandemic experience and that more than likely, a downturn is ahead. So, this morning I’ll take some time to remind myself of the things that have kept me afloat and doing okay this year, followed by a to-do list once back home in my beloved Bay City!! Setting oneself up for success by having a plan is essential.
Oh, and let me just say, that never in my life has “staying afloat'' and “being okay” been the goal… My goals are typically more impressive than that! But let’s face it, there are days when simply staying afloat and being okay is a win!
My hope is that you find some value in a few things from each list.
Read Adam Grant’s, New York Times article, “There’s a Name for the Blah You’re Feeling: It’s Called Languishing.” This is a game-changer! I’ve read and reread this article multiple times, and have suggested it to everyone I know! If you want to do something nice for yourself today, you’ll take a few minutes to read it!
Show yourself grace. The definition of grace is a willingness to be fair or to forgive. Isn’t it interesting how we show our loved ones grace without reservation, and yet to do the same for ourselves is exceptionally difficult. Many of us are way too hard on ourselves. I often suggest to clients to treat and talk to themselves like they would their best friend.
Create or maintain healthy routines. Routines help provide a feeling of normalcy and consistency - both of which are necessary to stay afloat and okay! Remember, routines are about discipline, not motivation. Healthy routines should be non-negotiable!
Be intentional, be grateful. I’ve included time for intention and gratitude in my morning routine for years. I write my intention for the day based on my values and on who I’m striving to become. I follow that with writing about a few things I’m grateful for. This daily practice helps to center myself before the day starts. I find it extremely valuable.
Write a daily to-do list. I’ve written a daily to-do list for 30+ years, and I understand the value. Clients have told me this was their game-changer! Be sure to pay attention to your whole self by giving yourself a few action items each day for your spirit, body, and mind.